Some of you might be familiar with the concept of twin flame. Some of you might believe you have a twin flame. And some of you might even be holding off on a relationship unless it is with your twin flame.

For those of you unfamiliar with the term, basically a twin flame is your other half, your ultimate beloved, you true love.

Anyway after much soul searching, I have discovered that putting my life on hold for my twin flame is ridiculous, and that actually it is not my destiny here on Earth. Yes, it is true that reuniting with ‘him’ will be blissful, but what does one do if their soul contract means reunification in another dimension?

I decided to share my discovery on my facebook page Soul Sex. “It is true that we seek reunion with our true twin flame, but whilst on Earth we are here to exchange DNA with others. Enjoy the process, rather than pining for your beloved, with whom you will reconnect for eternity anyway,” I wrote.

Accompanied by a stunning photo, it began to be shared profusely on social media, and the initial comments were in total agreeance. “If you can’t be with the one you love, love the one you’re with,” said one man. “Non-exclusive is what Divine Source is, so we are too… that is our true nature,” added a woman.

But then the opposition began, “No thanks. Fidelity is fine. Patience is a virtue,” politely remarked one woman. “For yourselves. I’d rather stay separate for now,” said another woman. “She is right!!! I’d rather wait,” agreed a man. Maybe these two are twin flames, I wondered, but I had to ask myself will they find one another?

“How boring!!!..I would rather wait for my twin flame..,” said a lady. Boring? What could be more boring than waiting and longing for something that’s not in the now?

“I don’t like being asked to sleep around I’m not a whore,” said one woman. I tried reassuring her with, “This is not about infidelity or promiscuity. This is about honouring every step of your journey back to oneness.”

How do you know if someone is your twin flame?,” asked one man “You will KNOW,” responded a woman. “Holding to limitation is not advisable. Perhaps there was a time when twin-flame union was everything, now we have a grand new opportunity – embrace it,” said one wise woman. “It is a timely reminder for me, after being lovesick all day. Pining. Tomorrow I will continue on my path,” said one brave man.

More comments came in: “well said!”, “These words are so true. Thank you for sharing the validation… it is such a wide truth in the perspective you offer to all of us.”

“I haven’t heard of twin flames before…hmm, new thought process to process ; ) Is it the same as a soulmate?,” asked a woman. “A twin flame is like your other half, a soul mate is a karmic partner,” I explained.

“Soul mates, soul lovers, soul fragments, twin flames… some souls split like cells over the eons… Love the pic. The quote is the most retarded thing I think I’ve ever read. My God… Guess that woman with 10 kids and 10 partners is perfectly following her appointed divine purpose. Well done! *Pukes*,” said the grumpy man.

“You’ re right – by exchanging DNA a NEW individual is born!! What a beautiful way to think of it! .. and yes I pine. I needed this message- thank you !” “Exactly the truth Soul Sex, too many people forget what it means to be human. It’s about sharing love, not f*cking everything you see but choosing those special people that are not always a twin flame.”

I must disagree with you Sidonie this time, I’m not here to exchange DNA,” said one woman. You might want to rethink this post,” offered another.

Well this has triggered quite a few people indeed. Funnily, there would have been a time when it would have triggered me too. Blessings to all, wherever you are on your journey. Ultimately there is no separation. We are all One.

Sidonie Bouchet, author of Alleluia, is the founder of the facebook Soul Sex. She offers online spiritual mentoring sessions to guide you and help you reclaim fragmented aspects of yourself.